Hard to be flippant ...
This is a hard post to write. I've done a bit of internal debating with myself as to whether to post or not. But this is a journal, online or not, and life isn't always rosy. And if anyone feels like commenting or providing advice, it will be very gratefully received ...
I took a phone call from K's teacher just before dinner. She has serious concerns about his self esteem, and emotional wellbeing.
Apparently there was a (relatively minor) incident in the playground at school on Friday afternoon. When she took K aside to speak to him, he had a major meltdown ... bursting into tears and then crying hysterically, telling her he is the "stupidest boy in the world" and that "no one loves him" and how he "wants to go home because he had friends there" and (which shocked the hell out of me and literally left me stunned and gasping on the end of the phone) ... how he "wants to kill himself" ...
Apparently a few weeks ago pretty much the same thing happened (without the comment about harming himself) during a maths lesson when he repeatedly got the answer wrong ... along with the comment "I'm so dumb, I'll never be clever like Mummy" ...
K has always been emotional / sensitive. He cries at the drop of a hat and until now a lot of the time I guess we've just thought he was "putting it on" and told him to harden up. But we're constantly telling him how he has a great brain and how smart he is, and the MOTH and I both thought he was coping with our move well ... we regularly ask him how he likes it here and he says everything is fine.
Obviously it's not fine. In fact it is so totally not fine that I don't have a clue what to do !!! For a seven year old kid to be coming out with comments like that is extraordinarily disturbing ... when it's my seven year old it's completely devastating !!!
The MOTH and I have an appointment with the school on Wednesday afternoon so that we can talk about it and put some "strategies" in place for coping with it.
He's loved, he's wanted, he's a special kid ... he's mine and I'd fight to the death to protect him ... where the hell have I gone wrong ?!?!?!?
posted by Kassi @ 8:05 PM
3 Comments:
You haven't gone wrong, sweetie. He's putting on a brave front for you and MOTH because he knows you value that - he's asking for help now, and you're working on getting it. Praying for you all.
I don't think you have done anything wrong but I think as he is growing up he is getting comfused and since he is sensitive and emotional this is the way he is expresing himself.
I don't believe he even understands what killimg himself really means and that its permanent.
It may be time to talk to him and find out what his problem is.
It may be just that he is not making as many friends as he wants to or not the friens he would like to have,it maybe that a bully is causing him grief.What ever it is I believe when 2 loving parents step in the problem will be solved.
two words
professional advice
But dont freak out it may make things worse
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